Episode 123 | Surrendering to Synchronicities: How I Stopped Forcing Outcomes and Found a New Healing Path

[00:00:00] Dr. Katie Deming: Welcome to The Born to Heal podcast. I'm Dr. Katie Deming, your host, and on today's episode, I wanna talk about signs and synchronicities because this is really the way that I live my life now and. I teach this to my fasters, and so I wanted to bring this to all of you so that you can use it in your own life.

[00:00:24] Dr. Katie Deming: And I've done episodes on intuition, and these are definitely combined because [00:00:30] the, the signs are what you will see and what you'll respond to. And then you'll use your intuition to know whether those signs are leading you in a direction or not. But first, I wanna just. Define what I mean when I'm talking about signs and synchronicities.

[00:00:48] Dr. Katie Deming: So signs, basically everything that is happening in your life is a sign. The question is whether or not you are tuned to a frequency where you can [00:01:00] see the signs that are being left for you to guide your life and the. Signs are things that are happening and you're looking for them in your external world.

[00:01:11] Dr. Katie Deming: So these are just things that are happening. These are events that happen. This is like, you know, even just seeing an animal or, everything literally. Everything in your life has meaning and is a sign, and synchronicities are, I'm gonna read the definition here for so [00:01:30] synchronicity is a meaningful coincidence, an event or series of events that aligns with your inner world in a way that feels too precise, too symbolically, resonant, or too timely to be just chance, even though there's no causal link between them.

[00:01:47] Dr. Katie Deming: And the way that I think about this is that synchronicities are the universe placing signposts in your path. And when you follow the signs, you follow the thread of your [00:02:00] destiny. And you guys know, I've talked about my whole experience of having kind of messages like coming through when I was practicing medicine of that like I was.

[00:02:10] Dr. Katie Deming: Maybe not supposed to be practicing radiation oncology, and it made no sense. And I'm sure there were external signs. I don't remember what they were at the moment. I just remember getting this message. But then I had my shared death experience and it was like. Obviously a big sign that something needed to change in my life and I, you [00:02:30] know, have spent the past few years, whatever, since 2020, like unraveling my life and then letting things come back together in a way that feels more aligned.

[00:02:39] Dr. Katie Deming: But. The difference between the way that I had created my life to becoming a radiation oncologist, to becoming a healthcare leader, to becoming an entrepreneur and an inventor, and all the things that I had done before was very much like I was planning, I was like goal setting. Like, these are all the things that we're taught, right?

[00:02:57] Dr. Katie Deming: Like this is success, quote unquote [00:03:00] in our, society or our world Today is like setting a goal and then you like, just make it happen. And that's what I did for many, many years. And it felt like I was like just pushing a boulder up a hill like I was successful by, I think standards that we have as a society.

[00:03:17] Dr. Katie Deming: But it felt hard for me and I was forcing things. And so in my life, since my shared death experience, I have released the, need to [00:03:30] be in control and released. Having these like goals that I set that I wanna achieve something, I'm much more in tune with what is showing up for me, what are the signs that are appearing in my life?

[00:03:45] Dr. Katie Deming: What are, what are those signs are like synchronistic, where there's like things happening that I can't explain, and I follow those things. So my life is much less linear. I will say it's definitely not linear at this point, [00:04:00] which is a beautiful thing, but I wait for things to show up, and then based on what shows up, if it feels resonant for me, then I follow that path.

[00:04:10] Dr. Katie Deming: And so, you know. I do set goals, like in terms of, okay, like I wanted to create this business, this new practice that I have, and so I had to just set some kind of goal to start down that path, but then I leave it very open, so if something shows up that. [00:04:30] Is leading me down a different direction. I don't stay fixed on my goals and actually in the business, it's been really interesting.

[00:04:37] Dr. Katie Deming: It was like a challenge because we would set goals and then like none of it would happen. And it was like finally like we just decided, okay, we're not doing that. We're not setting goals like that of things like that. We wanna do this and then this because it's like everything. Unfolds in a, in a way that has divine perfection.

[00:04:57] Dr. Katie Deming: And when I try and plan things, I actually [00:05:00] limit what I'm creating. You know, and this is not something that I came up with or that this is new. This is like as old as time synchronicities and you know, almost every religion, ties into this, although the language that they will use is quite different.

[00:05:16] Dr. Katie Deming: But I wanted to give some quotes from some very powerful, thought leaders who have talked about synchronicities. And one of the big ones who talks about this is Carl Young and he. Quote from him is, [00:05:30] synchronicity is the simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related, but have no discernible, discernible, causal connection.

[00:05:40] Dr. Katie Deming: Einstein said, coincidence is God's way of remaining anonymous. Paulo Klo, who wrote The Alchemist, said, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you achieve it. And Joseph Campbell said, follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were [00:06:00] only walls. So, and this is like, this is what I know.

[00:06:04] Dr. Katie Deming: Like I know this because I'm living it. It's like when you are open to what the universe is presenting you and looking for the signs, the more you look, the more you will see. And the more that you follow, the more that will open up. And I've shared this story. Before, but I'm gonna share this. and it has a couple layers to it, which will just show you that this is like stuff that I could not have planned this if I had [00:06:30] tried, but, so in.

[00:06:33] Dr. Katie Deming: And another thing that I'm seeing actually is, is a sign, and I'm not sure how this all fits together, is that there are cycles of time and signs. So like I am realizing I am, I've been in a three year cycle from like the end of 2022. Heading into 2023 was the beginning of a cycle for me, and now I feel the end of 2025 being the end of a cycle and entering into [00:07:00] 2026 as being a new cycle as well.

[00:07:02] Dr. Katie Deming: And also there's a bigger cycle that's going on that, you know, 2020. Five is a nine year, which is a completion year in numerology, and 2026 is a new year. So this is actually for all of us. We're en we're ending a cycle and entering into a new cycle. But at the end of 2022, I had this experience and it led into some synchronicities that happened in 2023 that I wanna share with you because I think it highlights the [00:07:30] example of a synchronicity.

[00:07:31] Dr. Katie Deming: So in 2022, my mentor DX said to me, you know, the sky is really, and this was like at a time when I had left Western medicine, I was planning to just take a couple months off and then do something to make money. 'cause I really like, had given up half of my assets. I, you know, I didn't have money to like just hang out for a long time.

[00:07:54] Dr. Katie Deming: I like, and I've always made money, so I wasn't afraid that I was gonna make money, but I had taken some time [00:08:00] off. But then in November, DX told me, you know what, actually you are not ready to go out, that you can't give anything that you don't have already. And that, you know, really I see it now is what I am wanting to.

[00:08:14] Dr. Katie Deming: Give or impart to other people is peace. 'cause that's where the healing happens. And I didn't have that peace yet. And so he put me on hold. He basically was like, you need more time. Like you need to do the internal work before you're ready to go out in the world. And I was like, oh my God, what am I gonna do?

[00:08:29] Dr. Katie Deming: [00:08:30] 'cause I was like, and I've got bills and I've got these things like that I, and, and children in college. And so I was. Really kind of in a spot where I was like, okay, I trust and I like, I believe that I'm being guided. And so I am just going to listen to this guidance. But one of the things that he said to me during this period where I was in on a break, like, you know, kind of basically self-imposed, break from.

[00:08:53] Dr. Katie Deming: Earning money and, and doing things in the world is that he said to me, he said, you know that the sky's the limit. When you do [00:09:00] decide to go out into the world, the sky's the limit for you. He's like, the only thing that I request is that when you get your private jet that you take me and my wife for a ride.

[00:09:11] Dr. Katie Deming: And I was like, I love that. I'm like, I love that. That's like such a beautiful vision for me. Not that I care anything about having a private jet, but I was like, I love the idea of being able to take him. On private jet with his wife and his dogs. So I just loved that idea and later that day, this is a synchronicity.

[00:09:28] Dr. Katie Deming: I heard an [00:09:30] episode of a podcast where Robert Edward Grant was being interviewed, and he talks about this moment where he was. a CEO of like big pharmaceutical companies. He would launch them, start them, and then, you know, basically build them and, and sell 'em for, you know, like basically have 'em publicly traded to, so have a big IPO to make money and then he would do it again.

[00:09:53] Dr. Katie Deming: And he now is in the spiritual space and really a polymath in, in using math, [00:10:00] for. Spiritual concepts. It's really hard to define what he does now, but he had been in this space and he's now moved out. But in this interview he was talking about when he was a pharmaceutical, like a CEO of this very like early startup pharmaceutical company that had huge potential.

[00:10:16] Dr. Katie Deming: It had the potential to be sold for a billion dollars, but he or to be. You know, worth a million dollars. But he described how he, they were burning something like crazy, like $5 million a day. I can't remember the details exactly, but [00:10:30] I was listening to this podcast and he was talking about how he was terrified during this startup period, and they were burning so much money and he knew that it had the potential for this billion dollar IPO, but.

[00:10:41] Dr. Katie Deming: It was just like, you know, in the, the fear of of, of doing the work and he decided that he wanted to have something to anchor him to that. A reality of a billion dollar IPO, and he's a watch collector, so he went out and bought the most expensive watch that he had ever had when the [00:11:00] company was burning all this money.

[00:11:01] Dr. Katie Deming: And he wore that watch every day and he would look at it and the watch would be an anchor for him. To that future state of having this billion dollar IPO. And when I listened to this episode, I loved it. I was like, oh my gosh, I love this idea of, having something as an anchor to your future state, especially since I was in this space of not knowing what was gonna happen.

[00:11:25] Dr. Katie Deming: And, and, and really I was worried myself about my own future. And I, I [00:11:30] knew that there was the potential, but I was like, that would be amazing to have something to anchor me to this. And so. I was like, well, I've never worn watches because when I was in the clinic, I just found that they were cumbersome and then washing your hands and all this stuff.

[00:11:42] Dr. Katie Deming: So I never had worn a watch, and I was like, oh, I would love to get a nice watch that I could anchor myself to this future state of being on a private jet and taking my mentor for. A ride. And so I went and started looking at watches and I had a [00:12:00] friend at the time who was, uh, into watches and so he was like, I really think a Rolex Daytona would be a good fit.

[00:12:08] Dr. Katie Deming: And so we like looked at all these different watches and ultimately I had chosen a Rolex Daytona. But it was like, I think like it was new, like a new Rolex Daytona at this time. When I was looking at, it was like $42,000. I still have a like a photo of the screenshot and I was like, okay. I was like, clearly this is not gonna happen.

[00:12:26] Dr. Katie Deming: Like maybe someday I will have the money to [00:12:30] purchase a $40,000 watch. Today is not that day with me being in the place where I was at. And so I was just like, okay, well that's the watch that I'm gonna get someday. I'm gonna have that watch and it's gonna anchor me to this future, you know, state of having such success that I could have a private jet, right?

[00:12:48] Dr. Katie Deming: And so I just tucked that away and was like, okay, you know, I, that'll happen when it's meant to happen and it's gonna be fine. And as many of you know, I had gone through a divorce as part of [00:13:00] my leaving western medicine that my husband was not up for that, like leap into the unknown. And so I had gone through a divorce in 2022 and, I had basically said to my friends that I wasn't going to do online dating because I just, it just felt like a nightmare to me. And I had a friend who, um, one of my very dear friends had, you know, been dating on and off and on and off these apps for a long time. And I've seen like, you know, all of her stories where I was just like, oh my gosh, no, I do not want [00:13:30] to, I don't wanna go on there. I just like, I just don't care. And I'm like, and I, I also trust the signs that I trust that the universe is always putting what I need in front of me and that I will meet someone in person if, if I'm meant to meet someone. So I had just said like, I'm never going on these sites and on.

[00:13:48] Dr. Katie Deming: May 11th, 2023, my friend, the one actually who had all the stories from the dating sites, had come up to just say hello, and I had just gotten my kittens, Milo and Goose at [00:14:00] that time, so she was coming by to see them. She lives a couple hours away and so she was in town. She came by. And she happened to say something about, you know, what about going on to like one of the dating apps?

[00:14:11] Dr. Katie Deming: And I said to her that day, I was like, no. I'm like, I'm not doing that. Like I definitely don't wanna go onto an app. I'll just meet someone. If I meet them in person, I'm, you know what I'm saying? I'll, if I'm meant to meet someone, I'll meet them in person. So anyway, so, you know, she leaves, she goes back, um, home.

[00:14:27] Dr. Katie Deming: And that evening [00:14:30] I like, I'm usually in bed by like. Nine, like I, I'm definitely an early riser and early to bed. And that evening, for whatever reason, I was up late and I stayed up and I was still awake at midnight, which happens to be my mentor's birthday, so I basically, um,

[00:14:51] Dr. Katie Deming: got this message at midnight to go on a bumble. And I was like, and I've told this story I think on the intuition episode, [00:15:00] but I was like, I literally just said today, like not only have I said this multiple times, but I just said this today, that I would never go on Bumble, but it was like. Coming through so clear that I was like, oh fine.

[00:15:14] Dr. Katie Deming: So I didn't have a profile, I didn't have photos. I didn't know what I was gonna say, you know, and that just takes time, right? So I'm like up in the middle of the night until like two 30 in the morning creating a profile and like putting myself on Bumble, which felt ridiculous at the time. 'cause I just, I [00:15:30] never was gonna do this.

[00:15:31] Dr. Katie Deming: And I went, when I finished my, uh, profile, I. Started going. I'm like, okay, well I guess maybe I have to go see what men are on here. And I was just like, what? This is terrible. This is like everything I didn't want to experience is like the sea of people and the photos. Men, if you're on these apps, please don't take the photos in your bathroom.

[00:15:56] Dr. Katie Deming: And I don't know, it's just like. Terrible. So, but [00:16:00] there was one guy who basically, it looked like all the other photos were kind of in black and white, and one guy's photos looked like they were in color. And he happened to be a photographer. It said he was a photographer. So I'm like, well, obviously he knows how to represent himself and he had nice photos and whatever.

[00:16:14] Dr. Katie Deming: And so I liked this one guy. And then I went to sleep and I woke up a couple hours later and I was like, you did what? You went on a bumble, like what are you doing? And so I immediately went back on. And I hid my profile. I like made myself invisible, [00:16:30] I think is what it's called, because I was like, I don't even know what I did.

[00:16:33] Dr. Katie Deming: And I was, and so then I woke up in the morning and I was like, I can't believe that that happened. Like I, I said I was never gonna do that. And then what happened was that, that morning, the guy that I had liked, his name is Steve, he. Unbeknownst to me the night before he had decided he was getting off Bumble because he had been on there for like [00:17:00] six months.

[00:17:01] Dr. Katie Deming: He had been looking and wasn't finding. The person that he wanted to find. And so he had planned that night before on Thursday night that he was going to get off the app because his app, you know, like whatever his subscription or something was gonna expire the next day or whatever. And so, but he could not figure it out that night on May 11th, in the evening when he was trying to sign off on the app, he couldn't figure out how to get himself off.[00:17:30]

[00:17:30] Dr. Katie Deming: And he woke up and. Opened his phone and he sees me and he had made a list. So basically he had been divorced, like he had gone through a divorce Now like. Maybe three, three years before. And he had decided when he went through his divorce that he was going to work on himself and get himself into a good spot for his next relationship and also for [00:18:00] himself, but decided to like.

[00:18:01] Dr. Katie Deming: Not date, not see anyone, not basically be by himself for, he didn't know it was gonna be three years, but it ended up being like three and a half years. By the time, you know, this has been like, it was three years. And then he went on to Bumble and then it was like six months later and um, he was gonna get off because he was just like not seeing anyone.

[00:18:19] Dr. Katie Deming: And he had created this list and 'cause his therapist had said like, what are you looking for? And so the things on his list were that she's. Petite. So [00:18:30] five one. He had very specific on the height, like five one. She's blonde, she has a bob, she's athletic, she's kind, kind was like at the very top of his list, you know, intelligent.

[00:18:44] Dr. Katie Deming: And basically he opens up the app on this morning of May 12th and is like, holy shit. Like someone's playing a trick on me because this is her. Like this is everything that I. Had said was on my list and the, you know, so for [00:19:00] him it was like immediate, he was like, oh my gosh, like, I, I have to meet this. Or at first he thought someone was playing a trick on him, so he called his friend to ask if his friend had somehow played a trick to put my profile on.

[00:19:11] Dr. Katie Deming: But then when he realized it wasn't a trick, then he reached out to me and, um, and I didn't know any of that. Right? Like, I didn't know any of that, that like, if I hadn't gotten on that date, I would've never met him. Right. And, but, and he. Just the whole synchronicity of the timing of all of that. So obviously I was tuning into something [00:19:30] with receiving that sign of going on there.

[00:19:32] Dr. Katie Deming: But it gets even crazier because on our first date, he said to me, he was like, you know, I, he's like, I, this is gonna sound really weird. He's like, but I. I ha I'm a watch collector, and he's like, I have a watch, and I, I, I feel like you're supposed to wear this watch. And he is like, I don't, you know, it's like, I don't even know you.

[00:19:57] Dr. Katie Deming: And so I feel weird even saying [00:20:00] that. but. You know, I, I don't know. This is just coming through so strongly and I did not hear it. It's so funny. He said it on the first date and I didn't hear it. And then on the second date, he said it again, he was like, I have this watch. I'm a watch collector and I really think that you're supposed to wear this watch.

[00:20:18] Dr. Katie Deming: And so then when I heard it, I was like, oh, okay. Tell me. And I had forgotten the watch story. I had forgotten about the watch and that I had picked out the watch. And so. [00:20:30] Anyway, he is like, it's a Rolex Daytona, and, um, you can see it right here. I'm wearing it if people are on YouTube, but it's a panda, Rolex, Daytona.

[00:20:41] Dr. Katie Deming: So it's actually like I, I find it even more beautiful than the one that I had looked at buying, which was a brand new one, and he brought that to me like on our third date I was wearing that watch. I had decided [00:21:00] was gonna be my anchor to riding in a private jet with my mentor, and I assumed that I was gonna have to buy the watch, right, to have this watch to be able to anchor me.

[00:21:12] Dr. Katie Deming: And here it just showed up. Completely unexpected. I was not looking for that, whatever, and he didn't give it to me, so he allowed me to wear it. But still I was like, okay, now I'm wearing this very valuable watch and I. [00:21:30] Have this anchor to this future state that is a synchronicity like that is something that I can't explain with a logical path, but obviously is a synchronicity of things that are, it's a coincidence.

[00:21:45] Dr. Katie Deming: That is not a coincidence. This is not just something that happened randomly and so. I love this story because on so many levels, number one, it demonstrates the synchronicity, like the craziness. Like I couldn't [00:22:00] have tried to put that together if I had planned a thousand ways. That is not one of the ways that I would've expected that this watch could have arrived to me.

[00:22:09] Dr. Katie Deming: Right. But the other thing is, is that, you know, so it, it infuses for me this like magic. There is like magic in the world that we are living in and that if we tune into it and if we follow the signs, then these types of things can show up for us. So that's the first thing that it like really turned my, [00:22:30] opened my eyes to that.

[00:22:31] Dr. Katie Deming: But the second thing is that it really showed me. You have to follow the signs. You have to be looking for the signs. You have to be looking and open to information that's coming to you for these things to open up. Because if I had not gone on there at midnight and done that whole thing that night, he would've gotten on the app and he would've signed off.

[00:22:51] Dr. Katie Deming: And he would've been gone. And I was clearly meant to meet him. Right. And then that's the other thing is when the watch came in, I was like. Well, obviously [00:23:00] this guy is someone who I'm supposed to know, you know, and I don't know where this relationship is gonna go, but it was like, it showed me that I need to be open to the signs and to follow my intuition when things show up, because that's where the magic is.

[00:23:17] Dr. Katie Deming: You know, the magic is in me following. So what I wanna say to you is that. Everything. Like for example, right now my [00:23:30] computer, like, I'll just give you this example. My laptop computer. I started fasting on Monday night on and I was like, oh, I'm gonna use my laptop, so because I'm gonna be resting, I'll be in bed and I can just like, do you know?

[00:23:43] Dr. Katie Deming: It's work, but it's kind of like easy, like I'm not having to, it's not deadline related. I'm working on revamping the fasting program and so I was like, I'm just gonna use my laptop in my bed and so that I can do that because my computer is like down on another floor and it's like a whole thing to like get down and, you know, [00:24:00] set up for working here.

[00:24:01] Dr. Katie Deming: And my laptop went completely dead and I literally had just finished, fixed something on the screen. So like literally had just been in the shop for like two weeks and. I was like, okay. And instead of getting mad, like which would be your normal, like frustration, like, oh gosh, this is like, why is this happening?

[00:24:21] Dr. Katie Deming: Whatever. It's like I trust. For whatever, I'm gonna get it fixed, right? But I trust that that is happening for a reason, and [00:24:30] instead of fighting it, instead of getting upset about it, I'm just like, okay, it is what it is and I'll fix it when I'm supposed to fix it. You know? And then like just little things like that where, and you can think of this as like something that makes you late.

[00:24:44] Dr. Katie Deming: Like you can't find your keys, right? And then all of a sudden, like 10 minutes later you find your keys and they were in a spot that you could have easily seen them. Like they literally weren't there. Like you didn't see them before. It's like, well, maybe that happened [00:25:00] because if you had gotten on the road earlier, something was gonna happen to you.

[00:25:03] Dr. Katie Deming: You know? And so if you can start to see the things that are happening, not as frustrations, but as like, okay, you know, maybe I'm supposed to do something else. So you know, instead of going here, I'm going to follow the signs to go where things are opening. And so. For me, that's the way that I live my life.

[00:25:25] Dr. Katie Deming: And when you live in this way and when you follow the signs, [00:25:30] more and more synchronicities will open up. And this is literally how I have created this business that you guys are witnessing. You've watched me go from like in tears not knowing why I needed to leave. You know, really scared to being in this place where I'm like.

[00:25:48] Dr. Katie Deming: I'm gonna make it, I'm gonna have a, a successful business and who knows, maybe I'm gonna have a private jet. You know, I don't know what's gonna happen. And not that I care about that. Like I wanna have enough money to support my family, put my [00:26:00] children through college and have a nice, comfortable lifestyle.

[00:26:03] Dr. Katie Deming: But I don't, I'm not no longer on that track of like, I need to be, you know, so uber wealthy and whatever, because I'm just like that. I know that doesn't bring happiness. What brings me happiness is serving. In the world in a way that is meaningful and making a difference for people in their lives. So anyway, but like I, I love living my life in this way because [00:26:30] the watch is such a perfect example of how it creates something that's even better than I could have expected.

[00:26:37] Dr. Katie Deming: And. In my business, you know, I'm going actually, multiple things are happening. So remember I talked about finishing a cycle and like a new cycle opening up. I can see now that I'm finishing another cycle, like these first three years after leaving Western medicine have been. A cycle for me and I'm closing that cycle.

[00:26:59] Dr. Katie Deming: And now [00:27:00] 2026 I think is opening a new cycle. Not only the big cycle of going, ending a nine year and heading into a one year, but also like a mini cycle of I was in before. And now I can see how things that I had started back in 2023 are now starting to wrap up in a certain way to open something new.

[00:27:19] Dr. Katie Deming: And so I'll give you some examples of some big things that have happened in my life recently. That the old me would've tried to hold onto. And this is like, like, you know what I did in my, [00:27:30] with my career and my marriage before was like when the signs showed up, I was like, no, no, no, I don't wanna lose that.

[00:27:36] Dr. Katie Deming: Like, I don't, I built my, I worked my whole life to find this, you know, this, Career. And then also my relationship. Like we had a good marriage. Like it wasn't something that I wanted to blow up, but when I finally let go, that's when things started to open up. And so recently, when things have started to show that things are closing, I, you know, inside me, I wanted to be [00:28:00] like, no, no, no, I can't have this happen again.

[00:28:02] Dr. Katie Deming: Like I can't be, you know, things blowing up again because. I don't want that. Like I've done that before, but I realize that now that I can't, hold on. And, and actually this is one of the things that I've learned through working with DX is that When the signs show up that you need to let something go and you keep holding on, it's like getting dragged behind a buggy or a horse in the dirt.

[00:28:26] Dr. Katie Deming: And like, so the question is like, how long am I gonna [00:28:30] hang up? Like, hang on to this before I let it go. And it's like, do I wanna be dragged through the dirt and just have that like dirt and gravel in my face and like get all scraped up and whatever? Or do I wanna just let go and see where this is gonna go.

[00:28:44] Dr. Katie Deming: As you probably know, I have decided that I no longer wanna hold on and just be dragged across the gravel and the dirt and get myself really injured by holding onto something that is no longer aligned in my life. And so recently. And these are [00:29:00] things that have happened now a couple months ago. One is that my director of operations and another staff member didn't feel aligned with the mission of where I was going anymore, and they decided that they, it's not that like it was totally misaligned, but it was just like, they didn't feel like that's where they were meant to be, um, spending their energy.

[00:29:18] Dr. Katie Deming: And so. They left, and that created a big void, especially for me as I'm in this big transition from switching my practice to just doing water fasting. And so it's been very disruptive, [00:29:30] very chaotic for me personally as I'm trying to navigate my team through this shift. And then finding the right person who can join me as my practice director, my right hand person.

[00:29:42] Dr. Katie Deming: It's been hard, and my first instinct was to be mad, like, oh my gosh, I can't believe this. And like also like a little bit of betrayal of like, gosh, you know, everything had been so aligned and then all of a sudden this just blew up for me all of a sudden. And. Then I [00:30:00] was like, no. I'm like, this is perfect.

[00:30:02] Dr. Katie Deming: It's fine. Like I don't know why this is happening at the moment, but obviously this is happening for a reason and I just need to manage myself and navigate through this so that I can see what's coming, because obviously something's coming. If this is not aligned, that means that this person is going away, that someone else is gonna show up, that is gonna be even more aligned for my business and the next phase of where my business is going.

[00:30:28] Dr. Katie Deming: And so. [00:30:30] That is an example of a different way. I would not have handled that the same way before. Before I had been like upset and I would've been trying to make it work. And I was just like, no, let it go. Like let it go. Don't drag yourself behind the horse. And then, you know, when signs like something showed up recently where I was like, oh, maybe there's a way, you know, to collaborate or whatever.

[00:30:49] Dr. Katie Deming: And then it was like, I. I listened, I stepped in, and then I, the universe showed me, it's like, no, this is not, like, this is someone who has helped your business tremendously to get to where [00:31:00] it is. But in order for you to go to what's next, you need to let that, let that be and let, you know, let it be uncomfortable for a little bit while you're.

[00:31:09] Dr. Katie Deming: Reestablishing your team and, and where you need to go. And so, and I say that also in relationships. So this relationship that I just described with Steve, where we had been together for like two and a half years recently, has just shown itself that it's like even despite us wanting to make it work, there's desire on both sides [00:31:30] too.

[00:31:31] Dr. Katie Deming: Make something work is like clearly not meant to happen. And so we've had this on again off again for, I don't know, it's been like six months now of trying to make it work and just recently, you know, it's. Been clear that like, this is not the relationship for me. This is not what's going to take me to the next level.

[00:31:51] Dr. Katie Deming: And so as much as I want to hold onto it, I have to just let go. And so the reason why I share these [00:32:00] experiences with you guys is because falling the signs is not always easy. It requires you to exercise patience. And I am not a patient person. I will say that. Anyone who knows me, it's like, I want things now and I want it fast.

[00:32:16] Dr. Katie Deming: I want it to be, you know, everything to go just like that. And so for me, this requires me to be patient and wait and not be attached to what I thought I wanted. [00:32:30] Right? I thought I wanted my business to be run by the person who was running it before. That's not what's happening. So I have to accept that and I have to surrender to what is, and so this can be, you know, tied to healing.

[00:32:44] Dr. Katie Deming: Same thing with my relationship. I had to surrender to what is, even though what I wanted was, I thought I wanted to be in this relationship, but clearly that's not meant to be. And so for your healing, you can use this, you can use this in any area of your life, but in healing specifically, it's like. How can [00:33:00] you stop resisting what is, which may be that you have a tumor?

[00:33:05] Dr. Katie Deming: Can you surrender to that and trust that it's here for a reason? And from that place of trust, then follow the signs on your healing path. And that is easier said than done. And I want to encourage you to. Really let that sink in. [00:33:30] Like, how can I surrender to what is, and how can I let the signs unfold and follow the signs as they come up?

[00:33:39] Dr. Katie Deming: I promise you that feels very scary, but it will open up magic in your life. And then the other thing is the more you follow those signs, like the fact that I stayed up until two 30 in the morning and did that because the signs were coming in at that time. That rewarded me with that synchronicity of the watch showing up.

[00:33:58] Dr. Katie Deming: Right? So you will be [00:34:00] rewarded By following the signs. When you follow the signs, then it's like, oh, she's listening or he's listening, so now we're gonna provide more. So I encourage you to step into this in a way with curiosity. And also the other thing is that sometimes we think like, oh, this showed up, so this means this.

[00:34:21] Dr. Katie Deming: And then you start down the path and you're like, ah, that didn't mean that, like for example, let's just take this relationship with Steve. Like I thought him showing up with the watch him, [00:34:30] this is like my person. This is it. And it's like, well, he was it for like a period, right? Like the, we had this beautiful relationship and I learned so much from him and he learned so much from me and that was meant to happen.

[00:34:42] Dr. Katie Deming: And also, same thing in my business. Like I grew so much, my director of operations grew so much, and these are things that. It was for a time, and then when it shows me something else, then I follow that. And that's a thing where you can get yourself tripped up if you're like, oh, this [00:35:00] sign means this, and you future pace out into like what it means for the rest of your life.

[00:35:06] Dr. Katie Deming: It's like, well, don't do that because if something else shows up a different sign at some point, then it's meant that you're supposed to go that direction. And when we get attached to outcomes is where we miss the signs that are right in front of us. So I wish you the best of luck and joy and synchronicity as you step into this for yourself because you're gonna [00:35:30] realize like there is a lot of.

[00:35:32] Dr. Katie Deming: Information around you that you are maybe not tuning into because, so you're, you're so busy on the plan that you're attached to or the outcome that you're attached to. So you've like set up this plan and you're moving through it and you're not seeing all the signs around you. So slow down, surrender to what is.

[00:35:51] Dr. Katie Deming: And open all of your senses to see what is the universe showing you? What is your higher self showing you or guiding you towards, because I can guarantee it's better than what [00:36:00] you could have planned. And, and I trust the same thing as for me. What's coming for me is even better than what I could have planned if I had said, okay, this is what I want and this is, you know, this is how it's gonna happen.

[00:36:09] Dr. Katie Deming: It's like, no, I expect that the magic is gonna be even better than what I could have planned myself. So, so much love to you and we will see you next week. On next episode, take care.